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December 17, 2009

KL Trip (Part 1)

Hi to dear readers :)

I have been MIA for more than a week I guess? Haha, well, I was in KL, and most importantly, I am now in Sabah again, with the darn blardy hell snail DIAL-UP connection.......

Besides that, we are having current issues here too. It's like at least 3 hours a day in the morning until the noon. Haha, I guess everyone who is from West Malaysia won't even consider to stay in Sabah if he knows this. :) Well, this is just so Sabah. Ok, maybe not for the capital city.

So, let me recap what I encountered during my trip in KL for a week. :)

First night in KL, I reached LCCT at 10pm, too bad, I couldn't catch the 10pm bus, not because I was late, it was because the bus was full. Darn! Waited for the next bus which was at 10.30pm, by the time I reached KL Sentral, it was already 11.30pm....... I had heavy luggages with me...... I couldn't get help from anyone. *Sigh* Eventually, I took cab. Coupon cab. Do you know how much that costed me? It was RM23 (From Sentral to Bukit Jalil. My bro already told me it was RM20++, so I thought that was reasonable. BUT too bad, I met an Indian driver!

Well, it was my first time to the place that I rented in Bukit Jalil, so I couldn't direct him to my place. So, I just told him the apartment name. That place has 2 entrances, one is for the residents and one is for visitors/taxis. So we came to the first one, and he got to make to the next entrance since that gate couldn't be passed by taxi. We then proceed to the next one, entered and he kept asking me RUDELY where my place was, I told him my block, and he just stopped in a place and asked me go down and asked people. Ok, I asked. We reached. Finally, he asked for RM4 from me, coz he said I made him turned a lot. OMG, that was surely less than 2km. And I was charged extra RM4! I asked him why I had to pay that amount and he explained that to me. AND, HE SAID I SCOLDED HIM. OMFG, I didn't even bother to look into his eyes anymore coz I know we will never get to win in a fight with Indians because they twist and turn every organs on their face that you can never do (Neck, hand, tongue, eyes, WHATEVER you name it!) I said "THANK YOU" after paying him and ran to the lift.

Forgive me to be racist, I hate to be one. But MAJORITY of THEM do that to others who are not having same colour as them. I would really like to scream PKM but of course as a civilized person, I didn't do. But for here, PKM, DNM, CCB him for accusing me SCOLDED him. Damn the driver!

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Proceed to my new place then. :)

My first impression to that place. Ok, it was small, but still bearable. Then, it's the end of the block -_-" Which is something I don't really like. It drags my legs to walk for that long corridor everyday! Then, I called my roomie (I never met him in person) to open the door for me. Ok, his face is as what I expected (as he appears in facebook). I don't really care anyway. I just hope that he is clean (keep the house clean and won't steal my stuffs and money). He was in exam, I couldn't really get him talking because I understand that. But as a new resident, I still needed to ask some questions ma...... So I did. Then, I made myself at home and explore everything that I could see in the house. The living room was quite cosy if I keep the place clean. I WILL when I return end of this month. As for the room.......... OMG, it was full with my roomie's stuffs. I wonder where I can put my stuffs anymore.......... Anyway, I won't buy too much furniture la, coz I will be only staying there for 5 months, guess I won't extend my stay more than 1 month gua?

As for my roomie, he was weird for me (he still is). He is 2 years younger than me. He is kinda homeboy, but he likes to go free concert, he always call the radios to win tickets and he did win tickets to dine with local artists........ He told me about that in my last day in KL. I was like, "ok......."

*sigh*, I need to talk to him seriously about my habits as a roomie/housemate. I am not an extremely clean person, but I am eligible for the title clean freak though -_-". I am ok with messiness, but not sticky/dusty floor.

Good sides about my house,

1. It's just 5-10 minutes walk to my workplace. I can take my lunch at home instead of having it alone in the office cafe like during May 2009 for 2 weeks. -_-"

2. The 7-11 is quite satisfying for me. The things sold are just like the price in supermarket and they have quite complete of daily stuffs to shop for. :)

BAD sides come........

1. 15-20 walking distance to Bukit Jalil LRT station. I know it's not far, but still quite far for me......

2. My apartment is NEXT to the highway. If you are going down from LCCT with bus, just wave your hands and I might see you. I can hear the vehicle sound for free 24/7.

3. My block is the LAST block of that area, which will make my walking distance to be longer since the entrance is in the middle.........

4. That apartment is FREAKING hot. The apartment doesn't have an aircon. My roomie says he can get from his house from Pahang if I want, but I rejected the idea to save budget......

5. There are some miscellaneous too, but I shouldn't complain too much. It is just for 5 months right? :)

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After I took my shower and packed my stuff for tomorrow's schedule, I tried to get some sleep with my rushing heartbeat because of the pressure I have got from the KL atmosphere and the highway. Anyway, I slept in the living room on the sofa with my sleeping bag....... Will tell you if you ask why. I only got to sleep at 4am, but I woke up automatically at 7am........ Grr~~

Guys, sorry coz I seldom leave comments in your blogs but I do read them. It's just too hard for me to do that with a lousy dial-up connection. I anticipate to meet some of you though. If you're interested to meet me, I am available on new year eve, 1, 2, and 3 January though. LOL, eco downturn, hard sell lo. >_<.

P/S: sorry for the typo or grammatical errors too, lazy to proofread. LOL.

December 5, 2009

Bad Boy is Bad

I was taking the serene nap in the living room.

Here came the voices~~~

"Faster wake up and cook la, later your sister comes back has nothing to eat."

"Why are you so lazy huh?"

bla bla bla the list went on~

I woke up after I heard those sentences.

I forgot that my sister will come back for dinner every night. I really didn't know how could I forget that. What carried me away?

Then, I rushed to the kitchen and started to look for vegetables in the fridge for dinner (Ok, that time was 6pm). So when I was doing that, the voices kept going on~~ Bla bla bla~

Finally, I was chopping my potatoes, and the voices still going on behind me...... Bla bla bla~ I was argueing and outta sudden. I yelled, "Get out from here!"

It saddened both of us. My heart was in a very confusing, frustrating, and self-blaming tempo right after that. I kept chopping my vegetables. She claimed that she was sad because I talked to her in such a tone.

Yes, it was my VERY FIRST TIME to yell at her.......

Indeed, she needed to go out at 6.30pm, she had told me to cook the dinner for 2 days already. I really thought that I would be having dinner alone, so I could cook any time I wanted. So, *sigh*, I didn't notice.....

And I woke up with such annoying nag, I was moody.

I SMS'ed her to say sorry after I had done with the kitchen....... I told myself to say sorry face to face, but I didn't do it. I just SMS'ed and said it..........

So she came back. We talk like usual. I guess that's family? Especially when that person, is my mum..........

This was really my very first time to yell at my mum, the line some more was "get out of here!". What a good son huh? I promised myself I will improve on this. I really do. My mum noticed too. But humans don't change in one day and my mum is expecting me to change drastically. Here comes the nag and here comes my short temper.

Whatever she talks to me, I shouldn't yell at her.

I broke her heart........ And she doesn't know that my heart broke too............

Ma, I love you and I am sorry for what I did last night. I will change.........

OS of the day:

Sorry seems to be the hardest word to say.

December 1, 2009

Old Ass Gathering

Ah~ Have been home for a week now. :) So what did I do? Well, nothing much I would say. :P

Other than helping out my mum (a little bit) doing house chore, basically I am just enjoying my life.

Just got to meet my secondary school classmates on Sunday. We met for a lami session. Well, the table is just another for of catching up with each other for us. I guess most of us do, right? :)

Got to meet a friend that we didn't really talk like this after almost 10 years of separation, because he moved to another school during form 3. Gosh, time really flies. We already knew each other for 10 years now, for the secondary school friends...........

Secondary school friends are those who really accompanied me when I was growing, I feel glad to meet them and it reminds me about our old time.

This time back to here, I guess I really have my good way to recharge. Life is always like that huh? I must appreciate my holidays now, coz I know I won't be having such chance when I graduate later. One week to go to my vacation in KL. Well, gonna meet my uni classmates in KL pulak~ Anticipating also~~~~

For those who wanna meet me, kindly contact me from 28th December onwards, I my vacation next week is gonna be a very packed schedule for my classmates. Well, say hi to me if you see me. :)

Life is good at the moment. Weeeeeee~~~~~~~~~ :)


OS of the day:

Simplicity is beauty.

November 29, 2009

Compatibility

Compatibility gets very complicated, specific, vague, unclear, and fragile when we are getting older.

If you notice, we find it hard to find a true friend as we are growing older.

We tend to be paranoic, mixing the experiences and value/judge someone with the perception that we built since we were young. People are no longer naive, people are no longer that forgiving, and people are no longer vulnerable to be influenced and touched.......... When we are growing.

We can't avoid that. Bad experiences leave great impact for the future socialization. You don't simple make friends if you experienced weirdo who bugged you just after an acquaintance. You don't trust people easily after being cheated for ONCE. You don't like someone when the someone has disappointed your for ONCE.

These are the things that happen around us. It happens to me too. Just because of a trivial incident, or fussy stuff, two good friends can turn hostile and angry.

We tend to believe what we always believe. We tend to judge based on how we judged what we experienced. We tend to trust what we see and hear.

BUT .........

We never try to understand what is really expressed, explained and said. We never bother to listen, we just hear, and find the points to argue, to support own egoistic way of thinking, to let the other side to conform to our sayings. We rarely empty our full-glass and let others to pour their tea into our glass.

We were taught to "learn from the lesson", but do you know that nothing is never the same, even though they are similar. Every case should be weighed differently but NOT solely based on the "lesson" we have learned before. It needs wisdom to judge everything and everyone.

We shouldn't judge others with the perception and lessons that we think that is enough. That's totally unfair. Everyone deserves a chance. When you're giving others a chance, you're giving yourself a chance, to learn a BETTER lesson as a person.

I have to learn all the things that I say. It is not easy to pour the full-glass water, but it's good to at least let it spilt a bit at the beginning. :)

Even if someone disappointed you for ONCE, you can give him/her another chance too. I am not complimenting myself, but I do easily forgive people. Sometimes my friends say I am too cruel to myself............

Don't always trust what you see and hear.
Don't always believe the beliefs that you believe.
Don't always judge based on how your judge.
Don't always sweep away chances because you don't give others a chance.

You'll find yourself a happier person, if you leave the burdens that have always locked you to give........ and take. Maybe because I believe that I can make a difference by opening up myself to accept the different others, I am making a difference. It is never better than this, to find yourself become happier, because you can start pouring out your "old water"from your full-glass.

When you think some people are just not compatible innately, it's maybe because both parties choose to do that, but not as how you blame the nature or whatsoever-you-name-it reason.

Just remember, when you close your door, you're not only preventing others from entering, but simultaneously, you lock yourself in your own world too.


OS of the day:

You have to learn to believe yourself, before anyone else on this earth does.

November 28, 2009

Randomness is Good

This post gonna be a rojak (mixture of everything) post. I am currently in my lovely hometown, using DIAL-UP connection which drives me to crazy~ Its slowness and unstability are killing me. I even find it hard to open my email. @_@~

So, few days back to hometown, I feel recharged gradually.

I forced myself to read up the module proposal and email to my supervisor in KL for his review and consideration. Now, I officially take my break. At the moment, I just feel wanna hide in my hometown. Not many friends know that I come back, and not many of them are there too.

My nephew is taken care by babysitter coz my mum is alone and she wants some freedom. Today was my first day spent with my nephew~ Ah, I just can't imagine if I can have my own kids. Well, that is very unlikely to happen anyway. Guess I will give all my love to my nephew or nephews (hopefully my sister is going to have another baby)

Today, I also did my shopping in the market and hypermarket alone. Do you know that I love to walk in the market to buy vegetables and fruits? I also love to get a trolley, walk around the shelfs in the hyper row by row, even though I knew I was not gonna buy much things. Just like today, I walked in the hyper for 1 hour plus, but I just bought less than 10 items. I bought 2 pairs of clothes for my nephew too. :) The baby clothes are so small, really cute. :)

I help out with the housechore, more proactive than before when I was home. Somehow, my mum still nags me and compares me to my bro. I go speechless. The perception is still there. Even I prove myself changed. Guess I have to try harder? But I didn't blame her, I never fail to "impress" people with my procrastination (but very efficient). If you're my future boss, please don't judge me. Damn! This blog is personal ok!

I forgot to buy the vegetarian recipe book from Kuching before I came back. It teaches to make variety of sauces. *sigh*, my place doesn't even have a proper bookstore, I wish to learn to cook more dishes from my mum, so that I can survive in KL later.

Now is 28 November 2009, one more month, I will be in KL for a long period of time. Think about it, I really feel scared, you have no idea what I will be going through during my internship. I don't do photostate and filing to pass my internship. It's very likely I will blog about my experience later when I start my internship. Hopefully I can have that time though.

10 days, I will be going to KL for a week for vacation with my uni classmates . Will be going up to Genting for 2 days (10 and 11 December), anyone wanna see me there? Haha. Before this, this one-week trip had been brought up in my family and we argued a little bit about it. I guess I made a right decision to protect my stance. This is perhaps the last time for me to travel with my uni classmates. And they are the precious friends that I can get, because they back me up most of the time when I need them. I am glad that I can bring them to Genting. :) Now I am really anticipating for that. I am gonna shop for clothes too. Budget few hundreds for it. I rarely buy new clothes. So when I buy, I buy a lot. :P Hopefully there will be sales everywhere to give me REALLY cheap discounts though. Yea, I am cheapskate, and I am not a high maintenance guy indeed if you know me.

Ah, I found out a good habit of me this lately. I always ask my mum before sleep. "What's the plan for tomorrow?" I will make myself occupied with some really quality time with my family. I put my family as priority in this holiday. I even ask my mum for permission to go out for a drink with old friends, unlike the before me, I would just tell my family, "I am going out for drinks without asking for her willingness." Am I turning into a better son? I hope so. Nobody can cook every meal for me in this world other than her. If I don't love her, who am I until today? Right?

My lovely doggie, she is now period. Can't let her enter the house, or else she will "kiss" the floor with her blardy period blood. She is still as lovely as ever, but she is growing older? The fur in her neck is turning white..... Without me realize it, she is now 5 years old, which equal to a 35 year old human.

What else I wanna do during this holiday? Probably will rest and rest until I get back from my KL vacation in 10 days. Then, have to recollect all my lost and scared souls together and plan for my internship. Our internship is serious sh*t........ Damnit! I can't wait for May to come!

For all the people who may concern. I love you all. Quote from my classmate, even though I find a bit ambiguous. "Sayang kepada kawan-kawan yang kita suka." What do you think about this sentence?

OS of the day:

Argueing with big voice doesn't mean you win, instead it shows your fear to lose.